After the Trust is Broken

Trust is one of the most important things one can have in a relationship. Without trust the relationship is doomed. We must trust that our spouse loves us and will be faithful. We trust when our babies are born that they will be everything we ever dreamed of and more. We trust in God and that he will always be there. We have a lot of trust but when that trust is broken everything in our world seems to come crashing down around us. If we cannot rebuild that trust then there is nothing left in the relationship.

Rebuilding trust in a relationship takes time especially if the other party has done something that has shocked you and hurt you. Having trust broken in a relationship is painful but sometimes it's possible to rebuild if both parties want that and if there is still love on both sides.

If the trust has been broken between you and your child maybe he has snuck out at night or has been caught smoking. As a parent you know you taught them better then that. Now what? Punishment commences and then it's time to start rebuilding the trust. You never stopped loving them. You start rebuilding the trust by gradually giving them more of their freedoms back that had been taken away when you punished them. With a spouse we start by allowing them to get a little closer to us after we have pulled away from them. Have they cheated on you? The first thing that should happen is that one of the couple needs to move away. Then the process of courting should begin.

Courting can be a lot of fun. If you are the spouse whose trust has been broken I suggest you play it for all it is worth. Make him/her gravel. Get counseling so you can learn how to cope with the broken trust and learn how you got to this point. If there is abuse then there is no second chance. Get out.

The truth of the matter is with me there is no second chance but everyone has to make his or her own decision. Remember though there is no third time. Another fact to remember is that if you are the person that the spouse is cheating with if he/she has done it once who's to say it won't happen again. Don't be the cause of a broken marriage.

Debbie Krause aka Dr. Mama Love http://www.askdrmamalove.com answering all your questions on relationships, love, marriage and family issues. Ask you questions and I'll get back to you as soon as possible.