The Dating Game and Attractiveness

If love is blind then why are there so many lingerie stores? If looks aren't everything then why do we look? A person's physical appearance greatly influences other people's impression of them. People feel better about themselves when they are around attractive people. Attractive people are thought to be more responsive, intelligent, kind and outgoing.

Now the question is, what do people find attractive? We know that it changes from country to country. We also know that society sets the norm of what attractiveness is. American males tend to prefer females that are thin and have an asymmetrical face, large eyes, full lips, small waist and large breast. Most of us hope for just one of these. American females tend to choose males with broad shoulders, long muscular bodies and someone who is physically strong, has large eyes, and full lips. Hairstyles for men and women tend to change yearly but in most cases surveys show that the males still prefers long hair.

Now that we know what American find attractive on the outside, what do they find attractive on the inside? We tend to be attracted to those who are close in proximity and have common interest. We tend to like people who agree with us, who have similar backgrounds and goals (Hatfield & Rapson study). We like those physically attractive but as we become older and are looking for a mate this becomes less and less important. We want someone who will reward us for our behavior. When we look for our mate we start looking for someone who we can become attached to, someone will to make a commitment. Someone who is honest and sexually arouses us.

So, where is this person we will want to marry someday? They are probably right next-door, going to the same church, with you in the clubs at the soccer and football games. You won't find them not until you are mentally ready. Sometimes love finds you though before you "think" you are ready.

Debbie Krause aka Dr. Mama Love http://www.askdrmamalove.com answering all your questions on relationships, love, marriage and family issues. Read other interesting articles on dating and love.